A bit of a different topic today! I have decided to use my blog to talk about things other than just Pinterest
Have you ever said to yourself:
You can't do that
What will people think of me
Who am I to think I can put myself out there?
Why would people listen to me?
I'm not an expert in anything
I'm just not good enough
Yup, me too! I use to talk to myself all the time about how I wasn't good enough for anything, that I wouldn't succeed, who was I to think I could have success and so on.
I would say it took me until I became ill to actually realise you can re-write those beliefs.
In 2016, I was diagnosed with an autoimmune disease called Sarcoidosis. At the time I was told it was cancer (it mimics the same symptoms as cancer). As you can imagine my whole world crumbled, I had to stop work, felt I had no purpose, wasn't physically as able as I use to be and so on. It took me about two years and a lot of therapy to work through what I call my mean girl. (If you haven't read Mellisa Ambrosini's Mean girl you must!)
See, my mean girl would tell me every day I was worthless, useless and that there wasn't any point in trying to do anything I couldn't! I would spend the day in pyjamas, under a blanket watching day time tv and that is how I spent a long time. Looking back it seems like such a waste of my life and time but I didn't know how to change.
With the help of my counsellor, I started to realise that I could re-write these beliefs. She use to ask questions of me like why not you? Why can't you do that? And I could never properly answer her because I didn't have any evidence of why I couldn't.
I started to work on myself and my mindset and put mechanisms in place to help. Such as affirmation reminders, I wrote my own and then set an alarm so they would remind several times a day. Affirmation cards, I would pick one every day, and reading. I started to read all sorts of books such as You can heal your life by Louise Hay, Mean Girl by Melissa Ambrosini, Girl Stop Apoologizing by Rachel Hollis, Thrive by Arianna Hufftington.
With all this work I started to do on myself I started to re-write those beliefs to:
You CAN do that
What will people think of me - their opinion is none of your business. People will have opinions whether I do it or don't.
Who am I to think I can put myself out there? I'm someone who has a story to tell and experiences to share.
Why would people listen to me? Because I have something to say
I'm not an expert in anything - you can become an expert in anything. An expert is knowing something well in a room full of average people NOT the world!
I'm AM good enough
Don't get me wrong, this I work on every day. If I catch my mean girl saying something, I try to re-write it there and then. I still get nervous going live, or posting on socials or even writing this. I have just learnt that if you do things outside of your comfort zone you will grow.
Hope this resonates with you in someway!
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